The story of Cinderella is an intriguing story of how the prince met Cinderella at the ball, fell in love and he looked for her with the glass slipper that she left behind, found her and in the end, they both lived happily ever after. Just imagine looking for someone around the state with that because you believe in your heart that you have found your perfect half. This fairytale along with others portrays a perfect relationship in different ways.
Everyone interprets perfection differently and in a relationship, it is based on individual perception towards happiness.
How a couple will see a relationship as being perfect is actually different from how and another couple takes it because every relationship works differently.
Well the things that you have to do daily in order for you to create your perfect relationship isn't something that requires you changing everything about your relationship just making some little changes such as:
1. Letting go of the baggage
People express love based on how they have been given love to in the past. Your past experience in love is what moulds you on how you express and channel Love. Your past relationship actually has a way of shaping how you respond to love and how you handle your relationships. Most of the time people tend to define their present relationship based on their past relationship that didn't work out for them. Doing that in the long run will affect the growth and health of their present relationship. For you to achieve a perfect, strong, and healthy relationship you need to let go of the past. Everybody is different and every relationship acts differently it's not fair to keep on judging a particular issue based on how the issue has played back on you in the past. You need to let that baggage go and discover how you can build something new and create a new chapter with the person you have now in your life.
2. Never see conflict as a big deal.
Do you know that conflict is the beginning of peace? That might be very confusing to you but in the war when conflicts arise steps are taken for Peace to be established. In a relationship, you need to understand that conflict is a normal thing and its beginning of peace. Different people have different beliefs and different perspective towards life. You might be dating someone and you could both share some beliefs or traits that are similar but there are still things that are different. The fact is that difference tends to bring conflict but just know that it's a normal thing in relationships. It is not something that you should hold strongly against your partner because if you always take every conflict as a big deal in your relationship you'll be having a lot of headaches, arguments, and problems. Some conflict doesn't even require fighting just understanding one another and in doing so you will be closer in creating your perfect relationship.
3. Understand your emotions and that of your partner.
Daniel Goleman wrote a book about emotional intelligence and what I got from that book is that before you can understand or handle someone else emotion you have to first understand and handle your emotions. For you to create that perfect relationship with your partner you have to first understand your emotional state before moving to that of your partner. Know this you are your best therapist so take time to talk to yourself, understand yourself, and your emotion first before taking on someone's emotions. At times simple words or comments on something can cause serious problems in relationships if said in a wrong manner. So you have to understand how you verbally and nonverbally communicate with partners and how these two factors affect you and your partner for you to build that healthy, strong, and perfect relationship.
4. Keep the attraction burning
Behaviors, actions, and physical fitness attract people to one another. A relationship begins with an attraction of man to a woman to one another which tends to grow. However, this attraction tends to reduce over time as results of the change in behavior, stress, or life challenges. But in order for you to build the perfect relationship you have to continually keep the attraction going. Ask yourself this question what made me attractive to my partner at the beginning? When you start thinking about it you will know that there were some things that you did that stoled his or her heart and made them fall in love with you. Engage in those acts and discover what your partner likes now because human attraction changes. Attraction is something that is beautiful at the beginning but fades over time. Keep the attractive power burning in your relationship and you will be surprised how things will work out for you.
5. Do not neglect the sexual connection.
Sexual intimacy brings a level of connection that is different from every other connection that you and your partner share. This is very important and should not be taken lightly because if you neglect the sexual connection in your relationship it can in the long run affect your relationship. Creating that stong and healthy relationship comes by you regularly connecting sexually with your partner. And when I mean connecting I mean
fully connecting body, mind, and soul to partner and ensure that they are satisfied and you are as well satisfied in the relationship.
As I said earlier perfection is interpreted differently by different people in different ways. You have the power to create the perfect relationship that you want. It all depends on you if you believe then it happens.
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